Step 1: Re-evaluate who you were, this time last year.
We're always going with the grain, and that's typical. We wake up, go to work, come home, and then got to sleep. Day after day, we repeat this same cycle so that we can live for the weekends. If you are in you're twenties, this is normal. Is it necessary? If you want to pay bills and be comfortable, yes! Is it you? That solely depends on who you are. If you don't feel comfortable, then maybe it's time for a shift in your life. Maybe you should start that business, write that blog, record that song, go back to school, and so on. Maybe it's time for you to surround yourself with people who will push you to chase your dreams too.
If you're not in the same place that you were last year mentally, physically, or spiritually, then you're on the right track. If you are, then maybe it's time for you to recreate yourself; FOR YOURSELF. Take a look at your circle too. If they haven't changed, then you most likely haven't changed either.
Step 2: What Does Protecting Your Peace Look Like?
Emotions are a part of life. Should you be sad or mad everyday? No, but it's not uncommon to have highs and lows. With highs and lows, you need someone to share them with. I'm sure you've heard that it's easy to keep friends when you're up, but what happens to them when you're down? If you're having a rough day and that person's phone call brings nothing but drama and anxiety, then you may need to let their call go straight to voicemail sometimes. Also, if they only want to tell you how depressed they are or how they are always in the midst of some mess, then that's causing your light to dim as well. You could have good news to share with them, but you save it only because they're life is a wreck. You should be celebrating life with those who are on the move and achieving their goals too. You shouldn't be constantly wrapped up in someone's drama and if it's you who has the drama, let it go.
Step 3: Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fonder, but Stay Focused
If you are on the third step already, take heed because this is typically the hardest. Usually people who are no longer on the same wave as you, they'll notice your distance but they won't understand it. You'd think that when someone slowly stops communicating with you, you would feel offended and walk away, but why are your friends still lingering around? These are the friends who are leeches in your life, and they will linger. They constantly suck you dry with their idle minded conversations or their issues that have nothing to do with you. The friends who were full of drama seem to get the hint and they walk away. For the ones who like to linger, it's okay for you to like a photo of theirs on Facebook, but it's not okay to kick it when you know that their season is already up. It may not seem like a big deal, but you may be delaying your own growth only because you're afraid of being honest with them.
"Don't make yourself uncomfortable, trying to make someone else comfortable." -R. Ford
Do you think celebrities have a problem with letting go of the people who weigh them down? With the way the magazines and blogs are set up, they can't afford to be seen with the wrong people. It sounds crazy but that's how your future is set up too! You have to got to the next level! You have goals that you need to reach, people that you need to meet, and places that you have to go. Your mind is a muscle and if you aren't using it and giving it new information that will elevate you, then you're stunting your own mental growth. You're holding yourself back. You're sacrificing your future for someone's comfort. Someone who probably won't even genuinely root for you once you've made it.
So it's time to make a decision. Are you ready to delay this next phase in your life, or are you ready to take that next step, even if you have to take it alone?
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